LL Escape the People Pile

Escape the People Pile

Rise Above Average

Last week, I told you I would share some ways you can get out of the people pile from the John Maxwell event I attended with a group of my clients.  

It’s relatively simple: be exceptional and rise above the average by doing these three things:

  • Ask
  • Be
  • Do

“Ask” yourself these three questions: 

  1. What are your strengths? What are you good at? You don’t quit what you’re good at. You get out of the people pile based on your strengths. You don’t have to be good at many things, but you need to know what you’re good at. Stop working on your weaknesses; instead, focus on your strengths. Improving your weaknesses only makes you average, and average is what the people’s pile is full of. 
  2. What are you passionate about? Passion gives you energy and helps you stay the course long-term. John told a story about a woman named Gabby who got him to sign a book at one of his events for the president of her country. She had never met the president but used the book to find a way to meet him and positively impact change in her country because of her passion.
  3. What could separate you from others? What is so unique about you that it allows you to get out of the people pile? You can’t get out of the people pile if you continue to think like those in the people pile. 

When John Maxwell asked legendary coach John Wooden what got him out of the coaches’ pile, he said speed. He picked the fastest players because he knew they could recover basketballs that the other team dropped and have a competitive advantage and more chances to score. This is thinking strategically, which helps you get out of the people pile.

Show up and “Be” these three ways: 

  1. Be intentional. You don’t get out of the people pile by accident. Never lose the end target. Begin with the end in mind and never lose the end. Continually build towards it. Returns are huge when you never forget what your end goals are. What you focus on expands. People are filled with good intentions in the people pile, but good intentions aren’t enough. You need to take intentional action.
  2. Be flexible and be ready to change. When you’re flexible, you know there’s more than one way to accomplish your goals. Be willing to try and find more than one way to achieve your goals so that if the first way doesn’t work, you have other options. 
  3. Be in the moment. The average person spends 47% of their time thinking about what they are going to do next. Anticipate and look for the moments in your life. We don’t see what it is; we see what we are looking for. If you can’t see it and expect the moment, you won’t find it. You have to look to find the moment. Do everything in your power to involve others in it, too. Seize the moment and share it with others. 

“Do” something for someone…

  1. They cannot do for themselves. Open the door for others to meet people they couldn’t meet themselves. Every day, ask yourself what you could do for someone they cannot do for themselves.
  2. That surprises and pleases them. What can you do that surprises someone and delights them? When you add value to others, you do nice things. When you appreciate giving more value, you get to know the person and understand what they like.  
  3. Creates a special memory. You’ll only get out of the people pile if you continually think of others.
  4. Exceeds expectations. Rise above what average people do. There is nothing exceptional above average. No one wants to go to an average restaurant, sit at an average table, and eat average food. Relationships elevate you out of the people pile. You have to be different to get out of the people pile.
  5. That only you can give to them. What do you have that is so special only you can give it? Everyone has the ability to get out of the people pile, or your life will be average. If you’re going to get out, there is a price to pay. People in the pile like free. You have to be courageous and take steps by intentionally doing what you’ve never done and paying what you’ve never paid before. Make this decision to change your life.

You’ll never make a difference in the people pile. You have to step out.

Everyone wants to be successful, but few people are willing to do what it takes. 

The dream is free, but the journey isn’t.

When was the last time you paid a price to get out of the people pile?

If you want to get out of the people pile and stop settling for average, you will need to be brave and intentional.


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Lisa Larter

Founder and CEO of the Lisa Larter Group, master strategist, author, speaker, podcast host, social media expert, consultant, and business coach. Lisa inspires entrepreneurs and business owners to see the possibilities for their organizations when it comes to strategy. She uncomplicates modern marketing and creates (and implements) strategies for businesses that are guaranteed to increase visibility, inbound leads, and revenue.

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